One thing Kurt and I both try really hard to do is to not pass judgments on others. It simply isn’t our job. We are not perfect and therefore have no right to judge others based on their imperfections.
There have been several occasions over the years where friends have made decisions that we think “boy, that is not what we would have chosen.” But that is just it – it wasn’t our choice to make. It was theirs and we have not walked down their road in life, we have only walked ours so therefore our choices may be different based on life experiences and we do not judge them because of that difference.
Over the last several weeks I have been involved in several conversations where someone was either judging another or they were feeling judged by others and it made me feel sad. It feels horrible to be judged by another. I am sure you have all felt judged at some point in your life – I know I have.
I felt judged in high school when I didn’t want to drink and party like all the other kids. I felt judged at 22 when I joined the church. I felt judged when (despite all my tries and appts with lactation people) breastfeeding failed and I had to bottle feed my babies. I feel judged when people find out I am a working mom. And now I feel judged about home-schooling.
But you know what? Over the years I have learned that I shouldn’t care what people think. I know I am doing the best I can with the cards that I have been dealt and I give others the benefit of the doubt that they are doing the best that they can with their cards too.
And that is what we should do in this life. We should love each other; be friendly to everyone; be supportive to each other; and definitely not judge. And don’t worry if others are judging you. You can’t control them. They are not perfect either. Just do the best you can and hope others are doing the same.